If you’re an anxious person, you probably notice that others around you can be just as anxious. It’s the same with anxiety in men: they aren’t immune to this common problem. Just like women, some guys are better at hiding their anxiety than others, which only makes it harder for people around them to know how they’re feeling. Here are five signs of hidden anxiety that men tend to hide:
They’re always nervous about things.
Anxiety is real, and it’s a serious problem. It can be hard to tell if you have anxiety or not because people often don’t show signs of it until they reach a breaking point—a point where they can no longer handle the stressors in their lives. But some men are more likely to hide their anxiety because they don’t want others to think they’re weak or unable to handle things on their own.
If you notice that your man is always nervous about things, he might be fighting off an anxiety disorder. Examples of signs include:
- He never seems confident enough with his decisions or opinions.
- He has a tendency of second-guessing himself when making decisions (like whether he should go out for dinner on Friday night).
They are more sensitive than you think.
Men are often perceived as tough, strong and fearless. They don’t need to be vulnerable or express their emotions because they’re too busy being the breadwinner and taking care of their families. But it’s important to remember that men can be just as sensitive as women—and they may even have a more difficult time dealing with their feelings because of this misconception about them.
If you notice that someone you know is acting in a way that seems unusual for them, ask yourself if something might be wrong. For example, if your boyfriend usually has an easygoing personality but suddenly seems tense and irritable all the time, he could be suffering from anxiety.
They have negative self-talk, too.
You might be surprised to learn that negative self-talk is a sign of anxiety, and it’s not something that only women experience. In fact, men tend to hide this from others because it’s seen as a weakness or an indication of mental illness. But just like other symptoms of anxiety (like anger-related issues or frequent avoidance), negative self-talk can have serious consequences for your overall health and happiness if it goes unchecked.
If you notice yourself saying things like “I’m not good enough” or “Why would anyone want me?” on a regular basis, then you need to start working on recognizing when these thoughts come up in your mind so you can begin learning how to overcome them.
They are afraid of the future.
Men are inherently more likely to fear the future because they want to be prepared for anything that may come their way. This is why they tend to be over-prepared and overly cautious: they’re worried about what could happen, so they’re going out of their way to make sure their bases are covered in case something unexpected happens.
But men don’t always share this side of themselves with others, especially if it means admitting weakness or vulnerability. It’s hard for them to admit that there’s a chance something will go wrong if they haven’t taken precautions against it—and even harder for them to admit that there’s a chance something could go wrong and ruin everything else in their lives as well.
They work themselves up about everything.
Men are less likely to talk about their problems than women. They tend to internalize them and think they’re alone in these issues. When a man doesn’t feel comfortable talking about his anxiety, he will usually start hiding it by acting on his impulses. He might start drinking more alcohol or smoking more cigarettes as a way of escaping reality. Another sign that you might notice is when your guy seems restless or distracted all the time. This can be due to how anxious he feels inside and how much effort he has tried putting into dealing with it himself without seeking professional help first (which would be extremely helpful).
If you notice any of these signs from your boyfriend or husband, don’t hesitate asking him if everything is okay!
They have to fight for calm.
You may think that people who seem cool, calm and collected are naturally that way. In reality, they’re just fighting to keep it together.
When you first meet someone who seems so easygoing and confident, it can be hard to imagine that this person also struggles with anxiety. But if you look closely at their behavior, there are plenty of signs that might indicate an underlying problem:
- They hate small talk. Small talk isn’t natural for everyone—and some people avoid it because they know it makes them feel uncomfortable or awkward.
- They’re constantly checking their phone or watch in social settings. Anxiety can cause people to obsess over the time so they never feel caught off guard by an interaction ending without warning (aka “running out of things to say”). Having a clock nearby can help mitigate this feeling because then there’s always a deadline on hand—and when there isn’t one (like when talking face-to-face), checking your wristwatch is less obvious than pulling out your phone every few minutes because you’re worried about getting bored soon.”
Being a man does not make someone immune to anxiety.
Anxiety is a real problem, and it can affect anyone. Even men who seem calm and collected on the outside may be suffering from it in silence. In fact, studies show that men are almost twice as likely to experience anxiety than women do.
Even if you’re a man who doesn’t outwardly display many of the symptoms we’ve discussed so far (such as talking about your feelings or constantly checking your phone), don’t be fooled into thinking you’re immune to stressors like anxiety. It’s important for everyone—women included—to know that there are ways to seek treatment for their anxiety without feeling embarrassed about seeking help for what might be considered an “emotional” issue.
It’s important to recognize that men can struggle with anxiety. It can be hard to spot the signs, as men often try to hide it. If you’re worried about someone, pay attention to their behavior and listen to their feelings. Seeking help is the first step towards overcoming anxiety. Remember, you don’t have to go through this alone. There are plenty of resources available, including therapy and support groups. Take care of yourself and don’t be afraid to reach out for help. Together, we can work towards managing anxiety and living happier, healthier lives.